What a day! meltdown

Yesterday Danika and Darren took Panda the Pug to the vet, Panda has a sore eye. All was going well until it was time for the vet to take Pandas temp, poor Danika totaly lost it shouting "dont put that needle in my dogs bum", dad stop her........lol Poor Darren he was trying to hold the dog on the stainless steel table and hold onto Danika as she started to grab at the vet.....insert laughing mum here! Today I picked Danika up from school today and she is really excited she is having her delayed birthday party at Kidz Bizz Sunday. We had a play on the swings (good calming activity) she was supper happy we went and got an icecream from the deli on the way home. We got home and thats were it all changed, Darren is sitting on the couch feeding Angus nothing wrong there! Danika starts screaming and crying, trying to run out the door throwing everything she can get her hands on, this went on for about 10min before I finaly found out what was wrong......Darren had his hair cut today very very short a number 1, and Danika finaly said "I dont like his head I can see his brains".............oh Danika you are so cute she meant his skull. Meltdowns............are part of the life of a child with ASD there alone one with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome and ADHD (I feel the need to again point out I am not Danika's birth mum) The only good part about a meltdown, and I do mean the ONLY thing is that Danika has no connection to the event after it has happened.